Introduction
One of the most common reasons that people seek Christ-centered Biblical counseling is because they have recently attempted suicide or had suicidal thoughts. A large number of cases involve a person needing counseling that is a young lady around 12-14 years of age with a recent history of cutting herself or doing other acts that result in self-harm. As common as this has become, it is important for Christians to seek medical and Biblical advice for those struggling, to learn what the Bible says about cutting and self-harm.
What is cutting and self-harm?
As the words describe, cutting is when someone takes a sharp object, usually a knife or razor blade, and cuts themselves, often on the arms or legs. Self-harm can be anything that someone does to themselves that causes harm. Self-harm does not necessarily always involve cutting, but despite what some people think, cutting always involves self-harm. Self-harm could be other actions such as deliberately drinking or taking drugs with the intention of causing harm to themselves or out of a desire to get back at someone else for a real or perceived injustice. In most cases, cutting starts out with non-life-threatening cuts that bleed and result in scars. In the cases of cutting on the arms, they might wear long sleeves even in warm weather to cover the wounds and scars.
Why do people do cutting or try to harm themselves?
There are a million answers to this one. However, many people start cutting because of some heightened emotional or Spiritual conflict in their life. Many express a feeling that they do not have control over their life or a close relationship with people such as their parents or with a romantic partner that they once had. More recently, we see cutting and self-harm result from situations when parents have taken away the cell phones or limited the computer time for their child. To the child, their whole world has been taken away from them and they cannot communicate with friends or romantic interests, which leads to extreme distress. Parents often do this because their child is up all hours of the night texting friends and lose sleep, which affects their schoolwork.
Often parents will say that their child is just trying to get attention. While this may be true in some cases, it is not always the case. In many cases, the person expresses a strong desire to do something to demonstrate their own power over pain as well as experience the “rush” that comes with cutting. By this, we mean that most people that we have counseled that have done cutting have told of how the cutting resulted in a strong surge of energy and wave of pleasurable feelings when they cut.
The most recognizable reason for this is the body’s response to the sharp pain of deliberately cutting themselves. When they cut, their pain receptors stimulate the nervous system. This results in the adrenal glands secreting adrenalin as part of a survival reaction. This adrenalin causes the heart to start racing and a host of other things that many call an adrenalin rush, much like one would experience when drinking a beverage with lots of caffeine.
This rush also gives them a surge of energy; hence the reason why high caffeine drinks are called energy drinks because they also stimulate the adrenal glands to secrete adrenalin. Like many daredevils and extreme sports enthusiasts who call themselves adrenaline junkies, those doing cutting or self-harm often develop a strong attraction or adrenaline addiction to the rush that comes from their cutting. Unfortunately, this often leads to more drastic actions including suicide when it gets uncontrollable.
Is there a Spiritual factor involved with cutting and self-harm?
Simply stated, the answer is yes. The Bible speaks of cutting in several places. God specifically commanded that the Israelites should not cut themselves or shave off their eyebrows as seen In Deuteronomy 14:1-2:
“Ye are the children of the LORD your God: ye shall not cut yourselves, nor make any baldness between your eyes for the dead. For thou art an holy people unto the LORD thy God, and the LORD hath chosen thee to be a peculiar people unto himself, above all the nations that are upon the earth.”
Although some would say that this was an Old Testament commandment, God gave us the Spiritual reason why He did not want this done. He said it is because, “Ye are the children of the LORD your God:” (Deuteronomy 14:2). As a child of God there are many reasons why God does not want us to do this, but the primary reasons are as follows:
Note: Click on KJV Bible reference to see verse text
As God’s children, He wants us to think and become like Jesus:
Romans 8:28-31 (KJV)
“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. 29 For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren. 30 Moreover whom he did predestinate, them he also called: and whom he called, them he also justified: and whom he justified, them he also glorified. 31 What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us?”
1 Corinthians 1:10-31 (KJV)
“Now I beseech you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that ye be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment. 11 For it hath been declared unto me of you, my brethren, by them which are of the house of Chloe, that there are contentions among you. 12 Now this I say, that every one of you saith, I am of Paul; and I of Apollos; and I of Cephas; and I of Christ. 13 Is Christ divided? was Paul crucified for you? or were ye baptized in the name of Paul? 14 I thank God that I baptized none of you, but Crispus and Gaius; 15 Lest any should say that I had baptized in mine own name. 16 And I baptized also the household of Stephanas: besides, I know not whether I baptized any other. 17 For Christ sent me not to baptize, but to preach the gospel: not with wisdom of words, lest the cross of Christ should be made of none effect. 18 For the preaching of the cross is to them that perish foolishness; but unto us which are saved it is the power of God. 19 For it is written, I will destroy the wisdom of the wise, and will bring to nothing the understanding of the prudent. 20 Where is the wise? where is the scribe? where is the disputer of this world? hath not God made foolish the wisdom of this world? 21 For after that in the wisdom of God the world by wisdom knew not God, it pleased God by the foolishness of preaching to save them that believe. 22 For the Jews require a sign, and the Greeks seek after wisdom: 23 But we preach Christ crucified, unto the Jews a stumblingblock, and unto the Greeks foolishness; 24 But unto them which are called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ the power of God, and the wisdom of God. 25 Because the foolishness of God is wiser than men; and the weakness of God is stronger than men. 26 For ye see your calling, brethren, how that not many wise men after the flesh, not many mighty, not many noble, are called: 27 But God hath chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise; and God hath chosen the weak things of the world to confound the things which are mighty; 28 And base things of the world, and things which are despised, hath God chosen, yea, and things which are not, to bring to nought things that are: 29 That no flesh should glory in his presence. 30 But of him are ye in Christ Jesus, who of God is made unto us wisdom, and righteousness, and sanctification, and redemption: 31 That, according as it is written, He that glorieth, let him glory in the Lord.”
1 Corinthians 2:9-16 (KJV)
But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him. 10 But God hath revealed them unto us by his Spirit: for the Spirit searcheth all things, yea, the deep things of God. 11 For what man knoweth the things of a man, save the spirit of man which is in him? even so the things of God knoweth no man, but the Spirit of God. 12 Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the spirit which is of God; that we might know the things that are freely given to us of God. 13 Which things also we speak, not in the words which man’s wisdom teacheth, but which the Holy Ghost teacheth; comparing spiritual things with spiritual. 14 But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned. 15 But he that is spiritual judgeth all things, yet he himself is judged of no man. 16 For who hath known the mind of the Lord, that he may instruct him? But we have the mind of Christ.”
Philippians 2:5 (KJV)
“Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:”
1 Peter 4:1-3
“Forasmuch then as Christ hath suffered for us in the flesh, arm yourselves likewise with the same mind: for he that hath suffered in the flesh hath ceased from sin; 2 That he no longer should live the rest of his time in the flesh to the lusts of men, but to the will of God. 3 For the time past of our life may suffice us to have wrought the will of the Gentiles, when we walked in lasciviousness, lusts, excess of wine, revellings, banquetings, and abominable idolatries: 4 Wherein they think it strange that ye run not with them to the same excess of riot, speaking evil of you”
When we are struggling with troubles, God wants us to seek relief from Him by praying:
Romans 8:26-28 (KJV)
“Likewise the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. 27Â And he that searcheth the hearts knoweth what is the mind of the Spirit, because he maketh intercession for the saints according to the will of God. 28Â And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. 29Â For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren.”
Philippians 4:4-9 (KJV)
“Rejoice in the Lord alway: and again I say, Rejoice. 5Â Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand. 6Â Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. 7Â And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. 8Â Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. 9Â Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.”
James 5:13-18 (KJV)
“Is any among you afflicted? let him pray. Is any merry? let him sing psalms. 14 Is any sick among you? let him call for the elders of the church; and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord: 15 And the prayer of faith shall save the sick, and the Lord shall raise him up; and if he have committed sins, they shall be forgiven him. 16 Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual yfervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. 17 Elias was a man subject to like passions as we are, and he prayed earnestly that it might not rain: and it rained not on the earth by the space of three years and six months. 18 And he prayed again, and the heaven gave rain, and the earth brought forth her fruit.”
God does not want us to adopt the practices of non-believers:
1 Kings 18:21-28 (KJV)
“And he answered, I have not troubled Israel; but thou, and thy father’s house, in that ye have forsaken the commandments of the LORD, and thou hast followed Baalim. 19 Now therefore send, and gather to me all Israel unto mount Carmel, and the prophets of Baal four hundred and fifty, and the prophets of the groves four hundred, which eat at Jezebel’s table. 20 So Ahab sent unto all the children of Israel, and gathered the prophets together unto mount Carmel. 21 And Elijah came unto all the people, and said, How long halt ye between two opinions? if the LORD be God, follow him: but if Baal, then follow him. And the people answered him not a word. 22 Then said Elijah unto the people, I, even I only, remain a prophet of the LORD; but Baal’s prophets are four hundred and fifty men. 23 Let them therefore give us two bullocks; and let them choose one bullock for themselves, and cut it in pieces, and lay it on wood, and put no fire under: and I will dress the other bullock, and lay it on wood, and put no fire under: 24 And call ye on the name of your gods, and I will call on the name of the LORD: and the God that answereth by fire, let him be God. And all the people answered and said, It is well spoken. 25 And Elijah said unto the prophets of Baal, Choose you one bullock for yourselves, and dress it first; for ye are many; and call on the name of your gods, but put no fire under. 26 And they took the bullock which was given them, and they dressed it, and called on the name of Baal from morning even until noon, saying, O Baal, hear us. But there was no voice, nor any that answered. And they leaped upon the altar which was made. 27 And it came to pass at noon, that Elijah mocked them, and said, Cry aloud: for he is a god; either he is talking, or he is pursuing, or he is in a journey, or peradventure he sleepeth, and must be awaked. 28 And they cried aloud, and cut themselves after their manner with knives and lancets, till the blood gushed out upon them.”
Jeremiah 16:5-7 (KJV)
“For thus saith the LORD, Enter not into the house of mourning, neither go to lament nor bemoan them: for I have taken away my peace from this people, saith the LORD, even lovingkindness and mercies. 6Â Both the great and the small shall die in this land: they shall not be buried, neither shall men lament for them, nor cut themselves, nor make themselves bald for them: 7Â Neither shall men tear themselves for them in mourning, to comfort them for the dead; neither shall men give them the cup of consolation to drink for their father or for their mother.”
Jeremiah 41:1-7 (KJV)
“Now it came to pass in the seventh month, that Ishmael the son of Nethaniah the son of Elishama, of the seed royal, and the princes of the king, even ten men with him, came unto Gedaliah the son of Ahikam to Mizpah; and there they did eat bread together in Mizpah. 2Â Then arose Ishmael the son of Nethaniah, and the ten men that were with him, and smote Gedaliah the son of Ahikam the son of Shaphan with the sword, and slew him, whom the king of Babylon had made governor over the land. 3Â Ishmael also slew all the Jews that were with him, even with Gedaliah, at Mizpah, and the Chaldeans that were found there, and the men of war. 4Â And it came to pass the second day after he had slain Gedaliah, and no man knew it, 5Â That there came certain from Shechem, from Shiloh, and from Samaria, even fourscore men, having their beards shaven, and their clothes rent, and having cut themselves, with offerings and incense in their hand, to bring them to the house of the LORD. 6Â And Ishmael the son of Nethaniah went forth from Mizpah to meet them, weeping all along as he went: and it came to pass, as he met them, he said unto them, Come to Gedaliah the son of Ahikam. 7Â And it was so, when they came into the midst of the city, that Ishmael the son of Nethaniah slew them, and cast them into the midst of the pit, he, and the men that were with him.”
Leviticus 19:28(KJV)
“Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you: I am the LORD.”
Romans 16:17-20 (KJV)
“Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them. 18Â For they that are such serve not our Lord Jesus Christ, but their own belly; and by good words and fair speeches deceive the hearts of the simple. 19Â For your obedience is come abroad unto all men. I am glad therefore on your behalf: but yet I would have you wise unto that which is good, and simple concerning evil. 20Â And the God of peace shall bruise Satan under your feet shortly. The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you. Amen.”
2 Corinthians 6:14-18 (KJV)
“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, uI will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. 17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, 18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.”
Cutting is a common practice with those who are demonically afflicted:
Mark 5:1-20 (KJV)
“And they came over unto the other side of the sea, into the country of the Gadarenes. 2Â And when he was come out of the ship, immediately there met him out of the tombs a man with an unclean spirit, 3Â Who had his dwelling among the tombs; and no man could bind him, no, not with chains: 4Â Because that he had been often bound with fetters and chains, and the chains had been plucked asunder by him, and the fetters broken in pieces: neither could any man tame him. 5Â And always, night and day, he was in the mountains, and in the tombs, crying, and cutting himself with stones. 6Â But when he saw Jesus afar off, he ran and worshipped him, 7Â And cried with a loud voice, and said, What have I to do with thee, Jesus, thou Son of the most high God? I adjure thee by God, that thou torment me not. 8Â For he said unto him, Come out of the man, thou unclean spirit. 9Â And he asked him, What is thy name? And he answered, saying, My name is Legion: for we are many. 10Â And he besought him much that he would not send them away out of the country. 11Â Now there was there nigh unto the mountains a great herd of swine feeding. 12Â And all the devils besought him, saying, Send us into the swine, that we may enter into them. 13Â And forthwith Jesus gave them leave. And the unclean spirits went out, and entered into the swine: and the herd ran violently down a steep place into the sea, (they were about two thousand;) and were choked in the sea. 14Â And they that fed the swine fled, and told it in the city, and in the country. And they went out to see what it was that was done. 15Â And they come to Jesus, and see him that was possessed with the devil, and had the legion, sitting, and clothed, and in his right mind: and they were afraid. 16Â And they that saw it told them how it befell to him that was possessed with the devil, and also concerning the swine. 17Â And they began to pray him to depart out of their coasts. 18Â And when he was come into the ship, he that had been possessed with the devil prayed him that he might be with him. 19Â Howbeit Jesus suffered him not, but saith unto him, Go home to thy friends, and tell them how great things the Lord hath done for thee, and hath had compassion on thee. 20Â And he departed, and began to publish in Decapolis how great things Jesus had done for him: and all men did marvel.”
It is very common to find people with obvious demonic affliction actively engaged in cutting and often they pick their skin raw with their fingernails until it bleeds. Likewise, some go as far as cutting with another person and sharing each other’s blood.
What should I do if I or someone I know is cutting or doing self-harm?
Seek help immediately. If necessary, call 911 or go to an emergency room if you are engaged in or see someone else cutting or doing harmful things to themselves. It is important that professional help intervenes to prevent risk to life or limb. In many cases, the person will be admitted to a mental health facility, but it is important that they are somewhere where they will be safe. Likewise, seek out a competent Biblical counselor that has experience working with people that are involved in self-harm or have suicidal tendencies. Many times, calls are received from people whose loved one is in a mental health facility because of suicidal or self-destructive behaviors. Addressing the person’s Spiritual needs is critical in these cases so it is important that every attempt be made to coordinate this aspect of their care with their health care professionals.
Final Thoughts
It is important for Christians to seek Biblical advice for those struggling with cutting and self-harm. Cutting is when someone takes a sharp object, usually a knife or razor blade, and cuts themselves, often on the arms or legs. Self-harm can be anything that someone does to themselves that causes harm. Many people start cutting because of some heightened emotional or Spiritual conflict in their life. The Bible gives us many reasons why we should not be cutting or trying to harm ourselves, primarily because we are children of God. Finally, if we know someone who is cutting, we should seek medical and spiritual intervention right away.
